Any Christmas present ideas for an elderly dad? Hes 90 but is still very much with it.
By moereen
Even a book on tape would be nice. There was a couple times when my Dad was elderly and living in his own apartment, I made up a box of assorted groceries that I knew he liked and would be easy for him to fix. I included 2-3 cans of his favorite soups, a couple cans of pork and beans, a couple cans of chili, a box of saltines, a loaf of bread, a four pkg of toilet tissue, a box of facial tissues, a roll of paper towels, a pkg. of chocolate covered candy called old fashioned drops, which had always been one of his favorite candies, a pkg of cookies. I also included a pkg. of styrofoam bowls, so he wouldn't dirty a bowl when eating his soup or chili. He really enjoyed these boxes.
My dad is in his 90s and we have found that paying for the things he needs, but thinks are too expensive, works well. His idea of prices for services is about 20 years out of date, so snowplowing, lawn care, and a newspaper subscription, are some of the things we do. We make up 'gift certificates' and put them in gift bags, and then he has something to open on Christmas Day.
We'd love to take him out to eat, but he doesn't enjoy it. So we make meals and bring them to him, or go to his house and make a meal with enough leftover for another meal.
Enjoy the time with your with-it Dad, it is priceless.
Is he still able to read? A good book in large print (if necessary) might be nice.
Bucket List? Skydiving? Gift certificates are always nice what are his interests? The food idea is good but there could be so many different things.
I always thinking giving baked treats, cookies, cupcakes, brownies, brickel, is always thoughtful and delicious. Plus you won't be just giving him more "stuff."
How about a magazine subscription to National Geographic or something that interests him that he wouldn't buy for himself. Or Fruit of the Month for the three months of winter or more depending on your budget. I worked for a company who gave all employees the 3-month fruit to help us stay healthy.
I buy magazines from bestdealmagazines.com. They are reliable and have very good deals. (Disclaimer: I do not work for them or know anyone that does.)
Make a chore or favor jar. Put in papers with do laundry, vacuum, clean frig, make a home cooked meal, his choice, clean oven/stove, go out to eat, pay for hair cut, etc., etc., anything that fits. Once a week he can chose one for you to do.
My mom when she was still with me loved to go out to eat. Her favorite place was K&W. I would go get her and take her to eat and be sure to get gift certificates so when her friends came by to go out to eat (they all loved it) she would be able to used the certificates to pay for hers.
Stamps for bills, correspondence. Music CD's or photos, old redone photos of someone or something special to him... and photos of the family. Pay for a cable TV line, a comfy chair or good light for him to read by. Planned visits from family and friends, and candy! DVD's of old TV shows he enjoyed and gift cards from favorite places so he can select his own time and gift. Don't forget hugs and notes of love!
I love the "chore jar" idea! At 90, I'm sure your dad has enough "stuff," Even though I'm still under 50, I'm more likely to ask for time with my kids than anything else. Here's a thought: perhaps your dad would enjoy a tape recorder and cassettes, or a digital recorder? Then, at his leisure, he could turn it on and record all those stories he's probably told a hundred times before.
Who cuts his hair? if he goes to a particular barber, go and get some free hair cuts for him; cab companies have gift certificates too. Does he play any kind of cards, a couple of new novelty decks (I saw one that has 100 dollar bill printed on the back of each card) They also have cards that are a little bigger with larger imprints for those who may have some trouble seeing. Most of all, he would probably enjoy some spontaneous visits through the new year.
Thanks to all who offered wonderful suggestions for gift ideas for my elderly dad, there's so many great ideas that I have plenty to choose from. Many I've never thought of before! Thanks again!
I've told my kids the truth about going out to dinner. I hate it! You don't know how they keep the kitchen (I have a good reason to fear this after a night out with the girls ended up with me having to go to the ER for food poisoning). I also have a hard time hearing in big restaurants, so I miss most of the conversation. And the worst part is the unbelievable prices!! For $20 I can stock the fridge with fresh fruit and vegetables! It really fails me!
Here's the best gifts - time and making memories!! I know that my kids have lives of their own and can't pop over every week, but I've reminded them that they are teaching their children how THEY want to be treated when they're my age. Be careful what you wish for! Take some time to really enjoy making a memory with me instead of spending $100 on a beautiful, yet half dead flower arrangements. Let me spend time with the grandkids by inviting me to one of their school functions. They'll remember that I was there and cared enough to show up.
If that's not practical advice and you're halfway across the country, then spend money on a Visa gift card. They can be used for anything from groceries to Goodwill (I LOVE to bargain hunt for clothes and knick-knack's and could happily spend hours in there!). These are also discrete enough to use for the coffee klatch after church. You don't need to explain that it's a gift certificate, and you don't embarrass yourself by looking like a skin flint in front of your friends.
We didn't get this far by blowing our money unwisely and trying to impress people by giving mom a fancy box of chocolate or whatever. Remind them that things like bread and milk are going to be hugely expensive when you factor in the truth that Medicare is NOT going to cover extravagant things like real butter (at $5 a pound today, just imagine what they're going to charge you in 20 years!!).
You're doing a great job Catherine! Remember to get a bonded house cleaning services in at least four times a year to get a good deep clean! Men are notorious for only wiping things down when they see a big schmutz! My father had the most revolting fridge!
Take care and keep up the good job with your dad!
